tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post8641649701615554478..comments2023-11-05T01:35:46.416-07:00Comments on The Psychiatrist Blog: Health, Love and MarriageDr Michelle Tempesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09318876662760890328noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-37945211914013803302007-04-06T10:07:00.000-07:002007-04-06T10:07:00.000-07:00Thanks to everyone who posted here - I did have a ...Thanks to everyone who posted here - I did have a lovely time at the weekend wedding of my cousin. Thanks for asking David. Peter, we must have been at different weddings.<BR/>Q9, jmb, city unslicker, chrysalis angel, ian, simon, ellee and ami - thanks for the comments...all insightful and some with life experience.<BR/>aphra behn - the reports don't seem publish the same results for co-habitation... it is just marraige... the debate remains open on reasons why. <BR/>Thanks for commenting about this issue.<BR/>MichelleDr Michelle Tempesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09318876662760890328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-17911930918147556842007-04-04T13:14:00.000-07:002007-04-04T13:14:00.000-07:00I'm going to posit another possible reason why men...I'm going to posit another possible reason why men would be benefited. They don't go to the doctor unless their wives nag them about it. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-44587933134367644202007-04-03T08:38:00.000-07:002007-04-03T08:38:00.000-07:00That should read "and that unmarried women didn't ...That should read "and that unmarried women didn't have children".<BR/><BR/>Preview, Aphra. Preview!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-76593284990296864962007-04-03T08:36:00.000-07:002007-04-03T08:36:00.000-07:00I've always been intrigued by that research. When...I've always been intrigued by that research. When I first came across the factoids that spinsters have a greater life expectancy than married women, but that married men live longer than batchellors, it was ok to assume that if someone was in a long-term relationship then it was marriage and that only unmarried women didn't have children. (It wasn't true, of course, but it was an acceptable assumption).<BR/><BR/>I'd like to know if the reduced life-expectancy for married women at the time was due to the complications of pregnancy and childbirth.<BR/><BR/>I'd also like to find out much more about the effects of marriage, long-term co-habitation, long term long-distance relationships and short-term serial monogomy.<BR/><BR/>So many ways for people to get together, aren't there?<BR/><BR/>But research based on "married" and "unmarried" is frustratingly inadequate these days, and it is such an interesting and important subject.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for posting about it Michelle.<BR/><BR/>Aphra.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-14156127026074552672007-04-03T01:49:00.000-07:002007-04-03T01:49:00.000-07:00I've heard this before and, like Q9, I like the qu...I've heard this before and, like Q9, I like the quote very much.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-20725065328388100682007-04-02T15:48:00.000-07:002007-04-02T15:48:00.000-07:00I am not sure I agree with the research. I am ...I am not sure I agree with the research. I am convinced my life is now shorter because I got married....(ha ah!)simonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17329985554257923069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-57405333102962985472007-04-02T15:46:00.000-07:002007-04-02T15:46:00.000-07:00Hey -- I'm a marriage afficionado. I liked it so m...Hey -- I'm a marriage afficionado. I liked it so much I did it three times. Seriously, though, in my current marriage that is nearly a decade old, I have a situation in which we both definitely look in the same direction and we, I hope, do offer the sort of support your reported studies suggest. I think I finally got it right, but it took a long time.<BR/>I do hope your 'wedding weekend' up north was a nice one.<BR/><BR/>IanIan Lidsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14106994463366766471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-39986974162320146592007-04-02T14:35:00.000-07:002007-04-02T14:35:00.000-07:00Hope you had a good time Michelle.I think the bene...Hope you had a good time Michelle.<BR/><BR/>I think the benefit to men comes from the intimate companionship aspect. I don't mean the physical(however appreciated), I mean the emotional. Men don't tend to turn to their male buddies and talk intimately about things. This forces them to carry their emotions close to the vest, unless they have a close female to share their feelings with. Women may fair better, because of the fact we have an exchange with either our male counter parts, or each other. I don't really know, just a theory.Chrysalis https://www.blogger.com/profile/00757696627388704079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-56193496330030797672007-04-02T14:30:00.000-07:002007-04-02T14:30:00.000-07:00women live longer to start with; that is a big hea...women live longer to start with; that is a big head start in the benefits box!CityUnslickerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15929544047783163175noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-49538643012261624052007-04-02T13:52:00.000-07:002007-04-02T13:52:00.000-07:00Hi Michelle,I love that Saint-Exupery quote too. ...Hi Michelle,<BR/>I love that Saint-Exupery quote too. I've never heard it before. Have to agree with the study that says men benefit more than women from marriage although I'll bet they'd never admit it. <BR/>I think most women know that emotional support comes from their women friends in a greater measure than from their husbands. They support each other in their widowhood too or divorcehood.<BR/>Regards<BR/>jmbjmbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13563252743976699923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-33405549545621316622007-04-02T13:36:00.000-07:002007-04-02T13:36:00.000-07:00I do love that,Love is not gazing at each other,bu...I do love that,<BR/>Love is not gazing at each other,<BR/>but looking in the same direction<BR/><BR/>The secret of life, love & happiness<BR/>In a nutshellQUASAR9https://www.blogger.com/profile/00593390598251093182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-54261731096932018782007-04-02T13:35:00.000-07:002007-04-02T13:35:00.000-07:00"However, his reasearch also again showed that it'...<EM>"However, his reasearch also again showed that it's the male gender who benefit more from marriage in health and mortality terms. In fact, women don't appear to receive many health benefits from marriage compared to men... I'm only reporting the research."</EM><BR/><BR/>Lol Michelle, then why do women still outlive men.<BR/>I'm talking especially about the older generation, you know the ones who married for 'life' or till death do us apart.QUASAR9https://www.blogger.com/profile/00593390598251093182noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-13347532603932282652007-04-02T13:34:00.000-07:002007-04-02T13:34:00.000-07:00I was also at a wedding at the weekend, but I don'...I was also at a wedding at the weekend, but I don't remember seeing you so it must have been a different one.Peter Smallbonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01086594327838855820noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-73316427597550051592007-04-02T10:59:00.000-07:002007-04-02T10:59:00.000-07:00Hope you had fun. Did you catch the bouquet or no...Hope you had fun. Did you catch the bouquet or not? ;)<BR/><BR/>I can't help but reply with the classic...<BR/><BR/><I>"Do married people live longer than single ones or does it only seem longer?"</I>David Anthonyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08240242801763405583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-87324602649692209732007-04-02T09:35:00.000-07:002007-04-02T09:35:00.000-07:00Still a mans world thenStill a mans world thenAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com