tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post6604592539492325981..comments2023-11-05T01:35:46.416-07:00Comments on The Psychiatrist Blog: Taking the Pulse of a RelationshipDr Michelle Tempesthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09318876662760890328noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-26000055328034169912010-08-18T12:03:03.615-07:002010-08-18T12:03:03.615-07:00If only we really new the secrets that would keep ...If only we really new the secrets that would keep people together forever. I think you need communication, honesty and respect to start with. But knowing the litte things about each other can be the frosting on the cake. After all, if you know your mate likes a certain type of food or book or whatever, you could go out of your way to get if for them for no special reason. This helps a person to feel special. Of course, we all want to feel special.Two Becomes Onehttp://www.twitter.com/4twobecomesonenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-6727750237450116712007-03-29T06:32:00.000-07:002007-03-29T06:32:00.000-07:00Hi Michelle - good post, if a bit scary in a way. ...Hi Michelle - good post, if a bit scary in a way. Re the blogging project, please can you give me the PHD friend's email address. I'm contactable at praguetory@googlemail.com. It is very much appreciated. I think I owe you one.Praguetoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16520923731691837948noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-37976966925676677662007-03-25T10:31:00.000-07:002007-03-25T10:31:00.000-07:00Ian, Maalie, jmb, Chandra, Simon and Chrysalis ang...Ian, Maalie, jmb, Chandra, Simon and Chrysalis angel - thanks for all your comments. I think you are all right as love as so many facets, and there can be no single formulae which could answer the unanswerable question... but it's fun to think and read about. Thanks to you all. MichelleDr Michelle Tempesthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09318876662760890328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-38396581981985440732007-03-25T05:06:00.000-07:002007-03-25T05:06:00.000-07:00Nice post Michelle. So much goes into a good rela...Nice post Michelle. So much goes into a good relationship. I hope you don't mind my popping in.Chrysalis https://www.blogger.com/profile/00757696627388704079noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-17517551456586296872007-03-23T17:21:00.000-07:002007-03-23T17:21:00.000-07:00i agree with maalie. I find however its not the ma...i agree with maalie. <BR/><BR/>I find however its not the major things, but the minor things. I have often said a friendship or love can be ruined in just a word. Like cutting a silk thread...simonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17329985554257923069noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-43659281314948130162007-03-23T10:41:00.000-07:002007-03-23T10:41:00.000-07:00Little map of tastes is a bonus but he still makes...Little map of tastes is a bonus but he still makes me laugh after 13 years. I think the reason for enduring relationships is the amount of laughter prevailing over worry and other difficult emotions. If the couples can laugh in worst of times, that’s the secret and true measure of resilience for a relationship… <BR/><BR/>I enjoy your blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-85049800213822878602007-03-23T09:46:00.000-07:002007-03-23T09:46:00.000-07:00mm- interesting idea..mm- interesting idea..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-10127252396591734802007-03-23T09:28:00.000-07:002007-03-23T09:28:00.000-07:00Well that would be the ideal, for sure. I think m...Well that would be the ideal, for sure. I think my husband missed out when they were handing out that part of the brain. Still despite his deficency we are still married after 46 years. <BR/>Regards<BR/>jmbjmbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13563252743976699923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-87882513962129912572007-03-23T08:38:00.000-07:002007-03-23T08:38:00.000-07:00But don't you think a "love map" can change over t...But don't you think a "love map" can change over time? What is appropriate when children are little may not be the same when they have left school. Maybe we ought to be able to download 'love-map updates' to our brains, like you can to a sat-nav.Maaliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13444125754967223180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36128386.post-67109150374913436312007-03-23T08:19:00.000-07:002007-03-23T08:19:00.000-07:00But, when you are first in love, or if even infatu...But, when you are first in love, or if even infatuated with somebody you find all those tiny essences utterly enchanting. I can tell you dozens of details about my former wife whom I loved with all my heart. Unfortunately, it was the 'big' things that drove us apart, not the fact she liked her eggs hard-boiled. <BR/>I think, Michelle, there is no 'formula' other than the fact that we are all different. I think love is a more 'spiritual' rather than a mundane thing. On the other hand,my former track-record isn't great.<BR/>But currently, with my spouse, I have been blissfully happy for a decade. <BR/><BR/>IanIan Lidsterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14106994463366766471noreply@blogger.com